The Biblical TRUTH About Childbirth

What do you know about God’s Word pertaining to labor and childbirth? Probably the basics. You know that painful labor is a large part of the punishment God placed on women after The Fall (Genesis 3:16). And you’ve probably read the one million verses in the Bible comparing other pain and hardship to a woman’s experience at birth. Here are a few to make you cringe:

Jeremiah 22:23,You who live in ‘Lebanon,’ who are nestled in cedar buildings, how you will groan when pangs come upon you, pain like that of a woman in labor!”

Isaiah 13:8,Terror will seize them, pain and anguish will grip them; they will writhe like a woman in labor. They will look aghast at each other, their faces aflame.”

Psalm 48:6,Trembling seized them there, pain like that of a woman in labor.”

Jeremiah 4:31,I hear a cry as of a woman in labor, a groan as of one bearing her first child—the cry of Daughter Zion gasping for breath, stretching out her hands and saying, ‘Alas! I am fainting; my life is given over to murderers.'”

Groaning. Pain. Terror. Anguish. Writhing. Trembling. I’ve read all of this before, but I’ve always skimmed past quickly, thinking, “Yeah, yeah, it’s painful, I get it.” It really hits home now that I’m only weeks away from this painful labor myself. So as I’ve read verses such as these multiple times in my quiet times in the last few months (because trust me, labor pains are every Biblical author’s favorite metaphor to really get their point acrossthey show up all the time!), I’ve really been searching for God’s truth in the Bible regarding labor and childbirth. Many times, such as in the examples above, I really believe it is simply used as a metaphor to describe immense pain. But, as I have kept searching and studying, God has spoken to me about His greater purpose in childbirthpast the simple use of a metaphor.

1 Timothy 2:15, “But women will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith, love and holiness with propriety.”

This verse immediately caught my attention because it’s a reference to childbirth that isn’t all about the pain. But, saved through childbearing? I wasn’t sure exactly what Paul meant by this at first, but I knew being saved is a good thing—and it looks as if childbirth is a way to bring this salvation about. After searching and studying, I have four possible understandings pertaining to this verse.

  1. Pain in childbirth is woman’s condemnation for sin, but Christ saves us through this. While painful childbirth is what women face on this Earth in punishment for our sinful natures, Jesus offers us that which we don’t deserve—eternities free from pain in Heaven.
  2. Through childbearing, women fulfill their God-given roles and demonstrate “true commitment and obedience to Christ” (from the Zondervan Application Study Bible). The verse is not taken to refer to the instance of salvation from sin but to the act of living out salvation. God’s plan for wives is to bear children and raise them up with care.
  3. God planned for salvation to come through childbirth—the birth of Jesus Christ.  Women (and men, too) receive salvation because Mary gave birth to Jesus.

    Genesis 3:15,And I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your offspring and hers; he will crush your head, and you will strike his heel.”

    Did you know that “he” in this verse refers to Jesus? I have always loved to jokingly refer to this verse as the reason behind my fear of snakes, but this was mainly because I took “her offspring” to refer to females. As in, there is enmity between “your offspring” (snakes) “and hers” (females). But, the verse clearly says HE will crush the serpent’s head. So the enmity stretches farther than just to females. This early in the Bible, God was already foreshadowing the birth of His son. And while the serpent gets to “strike his heel,” such an act isn’t deadly. Crushing the head, on the other hand, is deadly. From the beginning, God planned for Jesus to come to this Earth through childbirth in order to deal Satan the final blow.

  4. Through the difficulties and trials of childbirth, women develop qualities that make them more like Christ. God designed childbirth to train women after His heart in faith, love, and holiness. These bring about salvation for women (just not salvation from sin, which only Jesus provides).

Basically, while childbirth is painful, God has designed it to provide women with so much more than just the pain. He chose painful childbirth as the vehicle to bring His son (and ultimately our salvation) to Earth, and He continues to use childbirth to bring life-change to women.

Romans 8:22-23,We know that the whole creation has been groaning as in the pains of childbirth right up to the present time. Not only so, but we ourselves, who have the firstfruits of the Spirit, groan inwardly as we wait eagerly for our adoption to sonship, the redemption of our bodies.”

Just as painful childbirth was the precursor to the first coming of Jesus, the trials and hardships of this world (and of Christians particularly) are the precursor to the Second Coming. We must endure these struggles as we await the return of Jesus, our hope, but the laboring mother also has hope and a reason for her pain: the precious life of a new baby.

Romans 8:22-23 (above) gives an important Biblical perspective on childbirth. In the spirit of Paul’s comparison, we ought to treat labor and childbirth the same way the Bible teaches us to treat life on this Earth—as temporary, but not without purpose. And just as God promises to end our struggle on this Earth, we can trust Him to keep this promise in childbirth. We are blessed to be able to do the work we are called to do while fixing our eyes on what is to come: Jesus, and in my case, Nellie.

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-Cari

 

P.S. My new Biblical perspective on labor and childbirth has also given me a new perspective on CHRISTMAS! We all focus on precious baby Jesus (who does deserve all of the glory), but I often forget the part about Mary actually having to birth him. Alone. Without experience. In a stable. So, this Christmas let’s remember the most important birth that this Earth has ever seen.

P.P.S. I’m so excited about CHRISTMAS!!!

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Many are the Plans

I suppose you’ve heard by now, but the La Tour family is growing by one, and my husband Trigg and I are expecting the sweetest, tiniest bundle of joy in November. We found out recently that it’s a girl, which means in a few months this world will welcome Miss Nellie Grace La Tour! The fact that there is another life inside of me is one I’m still getting used to, but we couldn’t be more excited. And so begin the days of preparing for and dreaming about baby. 🙂

But this post is less about the biggest thing happening in our lives right now and more about everything else. Of course Trigg graduated almost two months ago, so big changes have come for him months before Nellie arrives! In May he began working full-time at RCAL Products Inc. in Prairie Grove, AR (about 25 minutes outside of Fayetteville). He’s worked there for almost three years as an intern and is now transitioning to design engineer!

For the past three years, Trigg has driven almost an hour every day to get to and from work, so we knew when he graduated that we’d like to move out closer to RCAL. The plan was for it to be my turn to commute, since I still have three semesters of my applied mathematics degree/Spanish minor left at the University of Arkansas.

Well, I’m excited to say we recently closed on a sweet little fixer-upper farmhouse on an acre of land, merely seven minutes from RCAL! We’ve seen God working all throughout this (very long) process, and we trust Him to continue to take care of us. Now Nellie will have a real home to come home to!

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Of course, “Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails” (Proverbs 19:21). After much prayer, Trigg and I know it’s not God’s plan for me to raise this baby while I’m still in school. I will not be finishing my degree at the U of A. At least not any time soon! This summer and in the beginning of next fall, I will be taking classes from the Northwest Arkansas Community College in order to finish out an associate’s degree. I’m scheduled to finish by October at the latest, so school will be long gone before Nellie Grace arrives!

This has been one of the hardest decisions I’ve made in my whole life. The world tells me that I need a degree to fit in. I need a degree to be an intelligent individual. I need a degree to get a job. I need a degree to be worth something. But God is teaching me to overcome my pride and trust in Him. Because raising children is not easy, and it’s not something to be taken lightly. But raising this baby is God’s plan for my life, and not finishing my degree is part of the price I need to pay to follow His calling.

So, friends and family, I seek your understanding and support in this crazy time in our lives! Through all of it we are seeking God’s guidance, and through all of it we continue to receive His blessings (the tiniest of which is coming in November!!).

 

Cari

It’s Been Awhile

It’s been awhile since I’ve written. I think I’ve gotten into thinking that since nothing “big” has been happening in my life, I have nothing to write about. But God is always at work, and that is a very big thing.

Here is a “quick” update on my life, for my interested family and friends. Christmas was a beautiful time for Trigg and I, as it was our first as a married couple! I had a BLAST decorating our tiny apartment with all of the Christmas cheer I could find for free or little money. Here’s a picture of our tree. I’m pretty proud of it!!

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I got to spend my entire break from school with family: Trigg’s family, my family, and the Blush family (who Trigg and I have claimed as our adoptive family). It was restful and tons of fun, but I was pretty much out of town for four weeks straight! I calculated that I was on the road for 75+ hours. Needless to say it feels good to be home. 🙂

Here are some of my favorite pictures from Christmastime!

First came Christmas cookies with Anna Beth! She doesn’t like to listen to Christmas music before Thanksgiving (and of course we all know how I feel about Christmas!!), so we’ve started the tradition of having our own personal CHRISTMAS PARTY every Thanksgiving night at midnight, to celebrate FINALLY getting to listen to Christmas music together!!

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Then came Trigg looking like a monkey as he pretended to hold mistletoe above us…

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And a super fun Christmas party at the church with our best friends Jeff and Caitlyn!!

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We had a Christmas party with our small group…

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And Trigg took me on a CHRISTmas date that consisted of Hot Choffee (that is, hot chocolate with coffee and whipped cream–HEAVENLY), CHRISTmas lights, and a ride in a helicopter to see–you guessed it–MORE CHRISTmas lights!!

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We traveled to Colorado with Trigg’s family and a couple of friends…

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And upon returning home, we saw this:

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Turn into this:

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Turn into THIS! Kyle and Ginny are engaged!!! This means that my sister-in-law/best friend is marrying Trigg’s best man/best friend! I can’t wait!

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After Christmas, we traveled to Louisiana to visit my family, and then back to Colorado with Kyle’s family, the Blushes!

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And we discovered our restaurant!!

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And finally, Ginny and I traveled to see our long-distance best friend, Kaitlyn!

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And now after reliving those memories, I’m feeling exhausted again. 🙂

But God has been good to us. Now Christmas is over, and we’re back in the full swing of things. School is going strong, and we can see Trigg’s graduation in the distance, as well as our one year anniversary!!

One thing God has been teaching me lately is that sometimes our excitement for the future can swallow up the present. Counting down the days is fun, and exciting, and good! But don’t forget where you are in life right now. Don’t forget to enjoy all of the sweet moments you have now. Don’t forget that your happiness shouldn’t dwell in the future–nor should it dwell on your current circumstances. Happiness comes from God’s blessings, but JOY, my friends. JOY comes from Above. And God wants your life to be full of joy.

“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” Romans 15:13.

 

Cari

P.S. I’ll be writing more soon, so keep your eyes peeled!

Laundry Blues

Does anyone else out there dislike having to do the laundry?

I’ve been married for almost a year now, doing the laundry on my own, and you know what I’ve noticed? The laundry never goes away. No matter how long I wait. No matter how much homework I have (or don’t have). No matter how many times I finish the laundry, the laundry always comes back. And when I finish it, it comes back again.

You know I’ve also noticed that I seem to be able to keep my home decluttered and my kitchen clean.

But laundry? No, I don’t have time for laundry. Here. Enjoy a Cari La Tour original poem I like to call “The Laundry Blues”:

When my laundry creeps out of its bin,

I tell it I’ll never give in.

Then it screams and it kicks,

and I look for a fix,

But I’m out of socks—laundry wins.

Cari

A Prayer for North Carolina

Oh Lord, why?

Why must the people of this country be so violent?

Why must they be so hateful?

God, I don’t understand why……well.

Sin.

Sin is what causes this. The devil causes this. Lies and deception of the heart cause this. People are being brainwashed. Their own selfishness and pride cause them to seek what they perceive to be “justice.” Because their sin tells them that they must vindicate the death of one of “their kind.” Because they take it as a threat to themselves.

Lord, thank you for the brave law enforcement officers of this country. For all of those men and women in riot gear throwing tear gas at the oncoming oppressors. For the officers of this country who protect and serve the people, no matter the skin color of the threat.

Please God, take it back. Take America back to you. Rid this foul country of the hatred and death. Let the Christians of this nation RISE UP and stand for truth and righteousness. Teach America to love.

“The cords of death entangled me;

    the torrents of destruction overwhelmed me.

 The cords of the grave coiled around me;

    the snares of death confronted me.

In my distress I called to the Lord;

    I cried to my God for help.

From his temple he heard my voice;

    my cry came before him, into his ears.

The earth trembled and quaked,

    and the foundations of the mountains shook;

    they trembled because he was angry.

Smoke rose from his nostrils;

    consuming fire came from his mouth,

    burning coals blazed out of it.

He parted the heavens and came down;

   dark clouds were under his feet.

He mounted the cherubim and flew;

    he soared on the wings of the wind.

He made darkness his covering, his canopy around him—

    the dark rain clouds of the sky.

Out of the brightness of his presence clouds advanced,

    with hailstones and bolts of lightning.

The Lord thundered from heaven;

    the voice of the Most High resounded.

He shot his arrows and scattered the enemy,

    with great bolts of lightning he routed them.

The valleys of the sea were exposed

    and the foundations of the earth laid bare

at your rebuke, Lord,

    at the blast of breath from your nostrils.

He reached down from on high and took hold of me;

    he drew me out of deep waters.

He rescued me from my powerful enemy,

    from my foes, who were too strong for me.

They confronted me in the day of my disaster,

    but the Lord was my support.

He brought me out into a spacious place;

    he rescued me because he delighted in me.”

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Delight in me, Lord, and rescue me.

Amen.

 

 

**For information about the riots in North Carolina, go here.

Wrapping up the Summer like a CHRISTmas Present

As much as some may not like to admit it, it’s August now. The summer (but not the heat) is rolling to a stop as school is beginning (or has begun) for many. I personally go back to school a week from Monday. And as my summer internship ends and school is about to begin, I’ve been thinking a lot about what God has been teaching me this summer– and what I’ve still yet to learn:

Trust and control.

A little strange, right? If you grew up in a hymn-singing Southern Baptist church like me, you’ve probably heard these lyrics a little differently:

Trust and obey,
For there’s no other way
To be happy in Jesus,
But to trust and obey.

Well sorry church, but this summer I changed the words. Trust and control. God, I trust you! I trust you with my marriage, my job, my finances, my future. But I still get to control them right? Like, I get to know all of the answers now? And everything will happen like I think it should? No struggling?

Nah.

I think the writer of the lyrics got it right the first time. God tells me to trust him AND give him control. And doing so will NOT make me happy, but it WILL make me happy in Jesus. The second verse of the song goes on to say that Not a shadow can rise, not a cloud in the skies, but His smile quickly drives it away; Not a doubt or a fear, not a sigh or a tear, can abide while we trust and obey.

I pray that I can give God complete control.

I pray that no shadow can rise.

I pray that no doubt, fear, sigh, or tear can abide in my life. And trust me friend, that’s praying for a miracle. (Good thing my God is a God of miracles.)

That’s the happiness I want. Are you trusting the Lord today?

 

When we walk with the Lord
In the light of His Word,
What a glory He sheds on our way;
While we do His good will,
He abides with us still,
And with all who will trust and obey.

Not a shadow can rise,
Not a cloud in the skies,
But His smile quickly drives it away;
Not a doubt or a fear,
  Not a sigh or a tear,
Can abide while we trust and obey.

Not a burden we bear,
Not a sorrow we share,
But our toil He doth richly repay;
Not a grief or a loss,
Not a frown or a cross,
But is blest if we trust and obey.

But we never can prove
The delights of His love,
Until all on the altar we lay;
For the favor He shows,
And the joy He bestows,
Are for them who will trust and obey.

Then in fellowship sweet
We will sit at His feet,
Or we’ll walk by His side in the way;
What He says we will do;
Where He sends, we will go,
Never fear, only trust and obey.

Trust and obey,
For there’s no other way
To be happy in Jesus,
But to trust and obey.

**P.S. There was your summer wrap-up, and here is your CHRISTmas present:

CHRISTmas IS COMING!!!!!!!

THIS. IS. NOT. A DRILL.

I know some of you claim to share my enthusiasm, but not until after Thanksgiving. Well that just won’t do for me. CHRISTmas only comes around once a year, so I’m going to milk it for all that it’s worth. And (speaking of God being a God of miracles) if you know what CHRISTmas is really about, then you know it’s worth a lot.

So, I haven’t decided how CHRISTmas will affect my blogs yet, but I just wanted you all to know that I’m getting ready. This will be my first CHRISTmas in my own place with my own decorations, and since Trigg and I are choosing to save money on gifts and decorations this CHRISTmas, I have no clue what that will look like. But get ready 😀

Countdown Cari says………. 135 days, 5 hours, 58 minutes, and 15 seconds until CHRISTmas!!!!!!!

Cari

 

W-day!!

Yeah, so, I’ve been pretty busy.

In the past month, I became a wife, left the country, came back, moved into my first home with my husband, had my first day of work at my first full-time job, and spent four days at Kids Camp.

Phew.

In all honesty, I can’t tell you (everyone) who was at my wedding…or even what it looked like. I remember walking out at the top of the hill (I walked down a hill instead of an aisle), looking down, and seeing over 250 people who care about me. In fact, many were standing for me. Not because I was the bride (though they did all eventually stand for that reason), but because there were not enough seats, and that didn’t matter.

And I can’t tell you what it looked like because flowers, decorations, food, and tables, etc., were all taken care of by an amazing group of people I get to call my family. Talk about love. Thank you to all of you for being so helpful, loving, and supportive through it all. All weekend I was shown over and over how much my friends and family love me. And then Saturday morning I got to show Trigg how much I love him! Yay!

Trigg managed to keep our honeymoon destination a surprise to me. Sunday morning, Trigg and I had our first flight at 6 am. By around 2 or 3 in the afternoon, we landed on the beautiful island of St. Lucia, in the West Indies! All week I saw some of the most beautiful sights I’ve seen in my life.

The first resort we stayed at, Ladera, only had 3 walls. You heard me right– 3 walls! And the room wasn’t shaped like a triangle. The fourth wall was open to a spectacular view of St. Lucia’s twin mountains, the Pitons. Check out this picture I took of the view:

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Yeah. That’s what I’m talking about.

We stayed at Ladera for two nights. While we were in the vicinity, we took in the beautiful views, explored a drive-in volcano, and visited a warm-water waterfall!

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We spent the rest of our stay at the Sandals Halcyon of Castries. There, we swam in the Caribbean, sailed our own Hobie Catamaran sailboat, snorkeled, made our own chocolate bars, had a mud bath, read a book together, and drank lots of coffee. Overall, the week was beautiful, restful, and an absolute blast with my husband.

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We left St. Lucia on Sunday, flew to Atlanta, and stayed the night in an airport hotel. The next day was super great, as we woke up leisurely, headed to the airport for a fantastic breakfast of bagels and coffee at Einstein’s, and boarded the plane for home.

After a sweet week away, it was so exciting to finally be together in our very own place. I started my job the next day (and I LOVE it!), and we’ve been busy ever since.

Just in my first four weeks of marriage, Jesus has been speaking to me in so many ways. He’s spoken to me through the love and selflessness of my husband. He’s spoken to me through all of the staff at Cross Church Fayetteville. He even spoke to me a couple of weeks ago at Kids Camp! Trigg and I both were counselors, Trigg for second grade boys and myself for second grade girls, and we both agree that Kids Camp was an amazing opportunity to invest in the lives of some precious children.

I’m so thankful that God chooses to work through me, and I praise Him for His unfailing love and continuing grace.

Grace and peace be yours in abundance through the knowledge of God and of Jesus our Lord.            2 Peter 1:2

-Cari

Hey guys!! If you weren’t able to attend the wedding, check out our wedding video here!

**UPDATE** Our wedding pictures are in! To see our gallery, click here!

The Twelve Day Mark

As I am 12 days away from being a wife, God has been working in my life tremendously. It’s still not real to me that I’m getting married next Saturday. But, as I have been talking about marriage with Trigg and a few married couples in our lives, God has been working on my heart, and I am forever thankful.

As I mentioned in my About Me section (check it out if you haven’t already!), this summer I will be working full-time as the children’s ministry summer intern at Cross Church Fayetteville. This means I get to help prepare for and attend Kids Camp and VBX, and I get to be a part of the preparations and planning for Awana in the fall. I get to make sure classrooms are ready for Sunday during the week, and I get to spend lots of time with the little ones at the end of the week. I couldn’t be more excited about this door God has opened in my life!

This past Thursday, I met with Jill, the Director of Children’s and Preschool Ministries at Cross Church Fayetteville. I’ll be working under Jill all summer, and since I’m going to miss the intern orientation (for my honeymoon 🙂 ) I wanted to meet to talk more about my job. And may I just say I am so glad I did!

It was amazing to hear Jill’s heart for the kiddos and to spend time talking about tentative plans and ideas for this summer. But, I didn’t realize going into this meeting that God would use Jill not only to prepare me for my upcoming internship, but also to prepare me for my upcoming marriage.

Jill and I talked a little about the wedding and honeymoon, and I shared a lot of our plans. We moved into conversation about her own marriage, and I learned that she and her husband have been married for 15 years. As a sister in Christ, she told me that her marriage has been sanctifying.

Sanctifying.

And I think about all of the conversations I’ve had lately about the struggles of marriage and the imperfections. The hardships and the arguments. Don’t get me wrong– I know marriage will be the best experience of my life. I know that through Jesus we will overcome every obstacle. And Trigg will always be by my side!

But I’ve also had lies in my heart telling me that I will never be good enough. I’ve been worried about how I will treat Trigg in our marriage, after the wedding…even on our honeymoon. Just in the short three years and four months that we’ve been together, I’ve seen myself say nasty things to tear him down. I’ve seen myself be selfish and self-serving. And I know that’s my flesh. That’s me. Without Jesus, I am nasty, selfish, and self-serving. I am dust.

But Jesus makes beautiful things out of the dust.

And that was my reminder from God through Jill. I am not perfect, and marrying Trigg will not make me perfect. I will still make mistakes. But I don’t have to be worried about my imperfections because I have faith that my marriage will be sanctifying. Jesus will use my marriage to teach me about my imperfections and make me more like Him. I will experience the most spiritual growth in the valleys of life, and ultimately I will be made more holy.

Ephesians 2:1-5   As for you, you were dead in your transgressions and sins, in which you used to live when you followed the ways of this world and of the ruler of the kingdom of the air, the spirit who is now at work in those who are disobedient. All of us also lived among them at one time, gratifying the cravings of our flesh and following its desires and thoughts. Like the rest, we were by nature deserving of wrath. But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions—it is by grace you have been saved.

Though I have given in to the cravings of my flesh and followed its desires, Jesus has saved me from the wrath I deserve– because of His great love for me. I am learning to be confident in my identify in Christ, and I am also learning through faith and God’s Word that my upcoming marriage will bring me ever closer to the King of Kings.

And that’s something to be excited about!

Cari

The Craziest Two Weeks of my Life (Part 2)

The craziest two weeks of my life took place in 2015 from May 11th to May 26th. If you haven’t read my previous blog, The Craziest Two Weeks of my Life (Part 1) tells about May 11th and the morning of May 12th. In this post I’ll start with May 12th.

As I mentioned in Part 1, the second reason Trigg and his siblings came to visit was to attend my high school graduation. I had graduation practice on the morning of May 12th, and the ceremony took place on the evening of May 14th.

Before the ceremony, I got to take pictures with my family and with Trigg!

 

I sang a song at the ceremony, and I got my diploma.

Yay! All of that was super fun. After the ceremony, I got to eat dinner with my friends and family at my FAVORITE restaurant: Atchafalaya!

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And this is where everything starts moving pretty fast. After dinner, Trigg drove me home to change clothes. I spent the entire night (from 10 or 11pm to 5am) at the Berwick Civic Center for Project Graduation! Project Graduation is like a huge party for all of the new alumni of Berwick High School. I spent all night with my class, playing games, winning prizes, and eating lots of food. Trigg picked me up the next morning at around 5, and I hurried home to get as much sleep as possible…which for that night was about an hour. Why so little, you may ask? Because on the morning of May 15th, the day after my high school graduation, at around 6:30am, I left with Trigg’s family to drive to the New Orleans International Airport. Final Destination: HAWAII!

I got to go to Maui with Trigg’s family for vacation and a friend’s wedding!! It was absolutely one of the best experiences of my life. We made it to the airport on time, and everyone was so excited!

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We traveled all day and made it to Maui after dark. We rented two minivans to seat the 13 people in our crew. We stayed in a beautiful condo near Napili Bay, where we were a five minute walk from the beach!! And can I just say, Maui. Is. Gorgeous. So gorgeous.

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Here are just a few beautiful sunsets from our time on the island. You may have seen these pictures elsewhere on my website!

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Every sunrise and sunset took my breath away. We spent the span of about a week and a half exploring the island and enjoying God’s beautiful creation.

May 26th (the last day of my crazy two weeks) marked the last full day we spent in Hawaii.

A little back story: in 2015, part of my Valentine’s Day gift to Trigg was a handful of IOU’s (“I owe you’s”). Each one promised a different kind of date, such as, IOU… a stargazing date, or IOU… a hammocking date.

Leading up to May 26th, Trigg used each of the IOU’s I had given him. And, at the end of almost every date, he shared Reese’s cups and glass-bottled Cokes with me! It was a fantastically sweet ordeal, but May 26th topped it all.

On May 26th, Trigg asked me to put on a dress, and we explored downtown Lahaina together. We collected some last-minute souvenirs and gifts, and he bought me a pair of beautiful genuine coral earrings! Before leaving Lahaina, we shared a huge, authentic, mango-black cherry Hawaiian cup of “shave ice”. I will compare it to a snowball for your understanding, but it was like no snowball I’ve ever tasted!

Next, Trigg and I got in the car, but he wouldn’t tell me where we were going. About 30 minutes and a lot of questions later…we pulled into the Ritz Carlton! Trigg said we had dinner reservations for 6:00pm, but at that time it was only 5:15. With the beauty of God’s creation around us, we didn’t get bored! We walked around an adjacent golf course and down to the beach, and upon turing around to ascend, I discovered the sweetest little set up on a beautiful sea-side cliff.

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And of course, inside of the ice bucket:

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And there were Reese’s cups, too 🙂

Trigg and I sat down and had a really great time talking and drinking our Cokes while we took in the gorgeous view. When I only had one Reese’s cup left, Trigg asked me if I could save it. I was a little confused, but he said he needed to talk to me and pulled out his wallet.

Inside of his wallet was the very last IOU. An IOU I had forgotten about! It was a “create-your-own” IOU. But, when he unfolded the IOU and handed it to me, I saw that he had re-written the create-your-own to read, “IOU… an answer”. He took my hand and led me closer to the water. He poured out his heart, knelt down on one knee, and asked me to be the girl with whom he spends the rest of his days.

I said yes, and the artistry of the sky matched the beauty of the moment.

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Twenty-five days until I’m Mrs. La Tour.

Cari

 

Timeline of Events:

May 11: final band concert; Trigg’s wreck

May 12: graduation practice

May 14: graduation; Project Graduation

May 15: Project Graduation; traveling day

May 16-25: HAWAII

May 26: engagement.

The Craziest Two Weeks of my Life (Part 1)

The craziest two weeks of my life took place last year in 2015, from May 11th to May 26th.

Trigg and I celebrate May 11th as the day we fell in love with each other (even though we didn’t realize it at the time). We call it “Our day”. If I remember correctly, Trigg and I have never spent Our day together since we entered a relationship with each other over three years ago, but May 11, 2015 was going to be the first time! I was a senior in high school and drum major of the Berwick High School Sound of Pride (SOP), and May 11th was also the date of the band’s spring concert– my very last band concert, and the last time I ever conducted SOP. My high school graduation was also that same week, so after Trigg finished  taking his finals, he and three of his siblings planned to drive to Louisiana to see me and attend my spring concert.

They ran a little late, and though my concert started at 6:00, the last I heard before I put my phone away was that they would arrive anywhere between 5:45 and 6:00. The band filed into the gym, and I took my seat at the head of the flutes, feeling jittery about playing my last concert and seeing Trigg. Time passed, 6:00 came, and the concert began…

But Trigg never got there.

In between every song (and sometimes while playing) I looked back and forth from the entrance to the place where my family was sitting, just waiting for Trigg to get there.

But Trigg never got there.

Eventually, about half-way through the concert, I saw my dad get a phone call and leave the gym. I was curious, and I began to worry. He eventually came back in, sat down, and whispered something to my mom. After the next song, while some awards were being handed out, my mom began motioning me to go to her. I was so confused. I told her no, and eventually my dad got up and came over to talk to me.

He told me that Trigg and his siblings had gotten in a wreck.

The car was totaled, and by the grace of God no one was seriously injured, but Trigg and his siblings were taken to the hospital in an ambulance. They were at a hospital 30 minutes away, being checked by the doctors. In my emotional state, all that registered was Trigg, wreck, totaled, ambulance, hospital.

And I cried. In the middle of my concert.

Shoutout to some of my best friends, the flutes and clarinets of SOP. They all comforted me and prayed with me (still in the middle of the concert, by the way), and then the concert went on. I went through the motions, playing the rest of the concert. I even gave a speech and conducted the band. But finally, the concert came to an end. I ran back to the band room, grabbed my stuff, hugged my band director goodbye, and jumped into the car. Trigg’s parents were actually in Louisiana, but my parents and I were closer to the hospital, so we left straight after the concert to go see everyone.

We drove to the hospital and found our way to the ER, and I ran straight to Trigg. What a way to spend our first Our day together. I fell into his arms and stayed there, happy to find that his only injury was a (pretty bad) brush burn from the airbag. At least the airbag went off.

It was hard to let go of Trigg, but I eventually learned that each of his siblings had also walked away from the accident with mere cuts and bruises. The couple in the other car was also fine. Everybody was okay…except for the car!

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After leaving the hospital, we drove 30 minutes farther from home to find where the car had been towed, and we saved everything salvageable. Then everyone drove back home, stopped at Walmart to pick up some supper, and stayed the night at my house. Supper was sandwiches and chips, and we ate after midnight.

The next day, everyone was a little more cheery, and I was grateful to learn that even though the doctor had warned everyone that the soreness would hit hard in the morning, Trigg and his siblings still didn’t have excess pain. I also learned that when the ambulance took them to the hospital, they all had to wear neck braces! Check it out!

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Personally, I think they were having fun!

Looking back, I see that God took care of me on every side, just like he took care of Hezekiah in 2 Chronicles 32. He always does. No matter what I go through in my life, he never lets me down! 1 Peter 5:7 says, “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you”. God wants to hear all of my stresses, worries, and fears! Because he cares for me. And that in itself is amazing. I want to keep trusting him in all circumstances, and I have faith that my God will never fail.

But that was only one day! There were still two weeks of craziness to come. Stay tuned for The Craziest Two Weeks of my Life (Part 2).

Cari